Training Coaching Mentoring….There Is A Difference
What is the difference between Training, Coaching & Mentoring.
Training is an organized activity aimed at imparting information and/or instructions to improve the recipient’s performance or to help him or her attain a required level of knowledge or skill. Once a trainer has taught you, their job is done. These people may or may not have academic training themselves.
Coaching is training or development in which a person called a coach supports a learner in achieving a specific personal or professional goal. Occasionally, coaching may mean an informal relationship between two people, of whom one has more experience and expertise than the other and offers advice and guidance as the latter learns; but coaching differs from mentoring in focusing on specific tasks or objectives, as opposed to general goals or overall development. Anyone can call themselves a coach! Most coaches work with you up to one year maximum.
Mentoring is the top tier of training, as it includes organized activity, support AND focusing on what the mentee needs. A mentor has a high level of academic education, such as a Ph.D. A mentor who guides a less experienced person by building trust and modeling positive behaviors. An effective mentor understands that his or her role is to be dependable, engaged, authentic, and tuned into the needs of the mentee. A mentor could work with you for one month to forever. It’s up to the mentor! A mentor will work with you for infinity!
When choosing a program to take in your industry, STOP and do research. Talk to others about their experience. It is not about the price. People must pay for value and a high set of experiences. I remember paying a mentor $3,000 for one month of mentoring, which included only four phone conversation. He gave me some tests and we talked about them.
It was the best $3,000 I ever spent. He taught me about people and their needs. He explained the need for assessing myself on a regular basis, and to assess my mentees as well, and explained to me that, “Some people are so weak, they can’t like you”. Many are afraid of what you will do, next. Remember, he said, “When people shun you, it’s about their self-esteem, not yours”. They must belong to a particular group for their “belonging needs.” He went on to say that “If you really want to be successful, you MUST have tough skin or pretend you do!” He told me to be the Lone Ranger!!
In retrospect, I should have listened at that time, but my personality lends itself to “go along to get along.” In the past few years, I took his advice and my life has changed for the better. Offers are coming in I only imagined about before that. I became diversified and entered into more than one area of expertise, helping authors grow with a new book, doing many radio shows, certifying people, and becoming a social site strategist. I’ve met some amazing people who are now friends who recommend everything I do. I’ve learned how to stand on my own. People respect me for my strength and dedication to everything I do.
Now, I am a mentor and teach others to mentor.