How do you feel about yourself?  What value do you place on you?  Gloria Steinem once said, “It’s just that there’s nothing without it.”  Self-esteem carries two dimensions—your self-image and your self-confidence.  Self-image is what you believe yourself to be.  Self-image is the image that you show to other people and it may not be who you really are.

SELF-IMAGE IS YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF

This self-image can be accurate or very misleading.  How many people do you know that are successful and talented and have a poor self-image?  There are several self-images.

PHYSICAL SELF-IMAGE – One does not have to look further than the daily newspaper to see what people will do to improve their physical self-image.  Everyone has opinions about their appearance.  Many people look at mostly the negatives that they see when they look into the mirror.  In the image business, we help people to enhance this part of image.  It is important to do what we can to be our best and then accept ourselves for what we look like.

INTELLECTUAL SELF-IMAGE – In your early years of school, this self-image may have been formed.  While writing the book Successful Failures, I learned from someone how one teacher made him feel so inferior that it affected the rest of his life.  There are many learning styles and people, not only learn differently, but each has their own pace.  It is important to learn as a lifetime process.  Do not allow others to make you feel you are not intelligent.

SOCIAL SELF-IMAGE – It is nice to be well thought of by your friends and colleagues but how “they” see “you” is  really not what counts.  Others are more worried about themselves and what everyone “thinks of them” to be that concerned with you.  Have a good opinion about yourself where people are concerned.  Do your best to be cordial, kind, and understanding.  Be a good listener and watch your social self-image soar.

EMOTIONAL SELF-IMAGE – Our feelings are responsible for how we feel emotionally.  If we are positive, we generally feel good; if we are negative, we do not.   Emotions are governed by thoughts and you have the power to select what thoughts you have.

CAREER SELF-IMAGE – We need to decide to be in competition with ourselves.  There is enough business for all of us and if you concentrate on your strengths and walk your walk, you will find that colleagues will only complement what you do and make you stronger.  Competing will make you work harder to achieve your goals.

As times keep changing, it is important to remember that you can not afford to have a low self-esteem.  You simply cannot be in charge of your life with a low self-esteem.  In order to make dreams happen, one needs to have the strength it takes to move forward in life.

Creating Self-Confidence

You may find the following “tips” to be helpful 

(1) Visualize yourself as a success.~If you can dream it, you can do it.    Walt Disney

(2) Improve your self-talk. ~Are you talking to yourself positively or negatively?

(3) Rid yourself of negative forces. ~Are you allowing others to bring you down?

(4) Examine your strengths.~You have many more strengths than you think.

(5) Learn to embrace change.~ Without change, there is no growth.

(6) Concentrate on you.~It does not matter what others think; what is important is what you think. Stop being what others want you to be.  Become an expert on yourself.

(7) Focus on what you do well.~If you are creative, concentrate on that.  Devote yourself to something you are good at.

(8) Purchase a Journal~ I believe that once words are scrolled upon a page, they become more real.  How can you know what you want if you do not take the time to decide what to write down?

(9) Take Action~Look at your journal and work on something every day to accomplish the goals you have set for yourself.

(10) Find a Mentor~Find someone you admire and work with them to accomplish your goals.  A mentor is someone who has achieved the level that you aspire to.

(11)    Let go of blame.~Forgive your friends, parents, and children.  Forgiveness is Powerful!  Blaming only drains you of positive energy.

(12)    Persistence~If you work at something hard enough, and long enough, success is eminent. Do not stop until you reach your desired goal

A person with selfesteem is able to value themselves as a unique entity aside and apart from their role or ambition. They base their value on their own internal standards. This internal “happiness” with one’s self plays a crucial role in job performance and satisfaction.

For more information about self-confidence, go to http:www.businesspresentationsplus.com and order the eBook, From Head to Soul®International. This book can change your life.

Written by Joyce Knudsen, Ph.D., AICI Master (since l985)  Self-image Counselor

10 Reasons Why You Should Become An Image Consultant – By Dr. Joyce Knudsen, Ph.D.

Why should YOU become an image consultant?

Speaking from my own personal experience, because I have been a professional in the wonderful, rewarding field of image consulting for some 35+ years. I am fortunate enough to be one of the few people in the world who has earned the designation as Certified Image Master from The Association of Image Consultants International (AICI). Every day I counsel my own clients and train others to become image consultants – successful image consultants.

 

Here are 10 good reasons why you should become an image consultant:

(1) You Can Earn A Great Income

As an image consultant, you have the opportunity to earn whatever you want to earn.

Some image consultants charge their clients $50-$75 an hour; some charge $250 an hour and more.

Some work part time and make enough to cover all their living expenses.

Others make it their full-time career and earn high six-figure incomes every year.

 

(2) You Can Help People To Succeed And Live Better Lives.

A person’s image can make the difference between success and failure in personal life, social life and business life.

As an image consultant, you can take your clients’ lives in your hands and make them better by positively shaping and molding their images . . .

. . . not just their external images – but their self-images, too . . . the confidence and self esteem they feel about themselves.

In the process, you will earn their gratitude (and a sense of achievement from helping someone else that will stay with you forever.)

 

(3) You Can Earn The Respect Due An Accomplished Professional.

Think about this title:  “Certified Image Consultant.”

That title says a lot. It conveys a picture of learning . . . of competence . . . of professionalism. It says to the other person,  “This is a person of knowledge . . . of accomplishment . . . of skill – the kind of person who deserves my respect.”

 

(4)  You Can Work When And Where You Want.

An image consultant does not need an expensive office or any fancy equipment.

You can work out of your home, if you want. You can choose to meet  your clients in their homes or offices.

An image consultant does not have to work any set schedule.

You can work 12 hours a day or you can choose to work 12 hours a month.

You counsel your clients by appointment. And, you set the time and place.

 

(5) You Can Have The Fun And Enjoyment Of A Glamorous Career.

Some image consultants help their clients by going shopping with them to pick out the clothes that will make them look best.

I did that for a public official’s wife and picked up an extra $750 for a few hours of “fun” work. Others do the same thing for Hollywood Stars – even more fun. Some image consultants travel across town to advise a local business person on the proper etiquette for an important business dinner.

Others travel across the world to lecture large groups on the importance of image. I did that, too. I went to Hong Kong with my husband – all expenses paid for both of us.

(A LOT of fun!)

 

(6)  You Can Be An Image Consultant Regardless Of Your Age Gender or Background.

Grandmothers become image consultants. So do their granddaughters.

College graduates become image consultants. So do high school dropouts.

People from big cities like New York and Hong Kong and little towns like, well, East Anywhere, become image consultants.

People who have lived in the same place all their lives become image consultants. So do people who have moved to homes in other countries.

 

(7)  You Can Have The Job Security Of A Professional.

Styles change, but image always stays in style.  It always has and always will. Cleopatra wanted a good image.  So does Cleo Jones.

 

(8)  You Can Have Clients Seek You Out And Come To You.

One thing you should know about being an image consultant . . .. . If you do it well, your clients will become walking, talking, praising, recommending, and referring “billboards” for YOU. Other people will see the great job you have done for Mrs. X and they will want that kind of image help for themselves, too. So, they will ask Mrs. X to tell them how they got that great look.

Then, your phone will ring.

 

(9)  You Can Reach Your Horizon – And Then Go Far Beyond.

Think about you as an image consultant. What do you see in your mind’s eye? Do you see yourself advising a client about the best clothing style for his or her body type? What is their best hair style? What eye glasses look good on them? What type of shoe should they purchase? Do they know the right colors that will flatter them? Do they know proper etiquette?

That’s what you can do – and you can earn a good living . . . an outstanding living . . . doing it. But that horizon is not the last one for you as an image consultant.

Think about you in an entirely different setting – standing at the podium addressing a room full of corporate executives.

You are advising them what they need to do to mold their employees in an image that moves their company ahead.

Moreover,  you are being paid several thousand dollars for a few hours of your time to do it.

Think about being called upon to appear on TV shows and being quoted in newspapers and magazines as an expert in the image field.  (I am all the time.)

Yes, that is the horizon that is open to you as an image consultant if you do your job well.

 

(10)  You Can . . . (Well, You Pick This One!)

We all have different aspirations in life. Nine of the reasons to become an image consultant I have listed above would apply to most of us. But you are not “most of us.” You are YOU. So add your own 10th “good reason to become an image consultant” to this list. You well know, of course, there are no guarantees about success in life, and I can’t give one either.  Like everything else in life, what you achieve in image consulting is up to you.  It depends on how well you are trained and how well you apply what you learn.

 

INTERVIEWING

1) RESEARCH THE EMPLOYER–The first part of any interview process is research. The idea is to learn as much as possible about the organization, its philosophies, goals and future plans. You are showing them that  you took the time to research their company and showing them you went that extra mile.

2) REREAD/REDO YOUR RESUME–Make sure you are familiar with the contents. It will be the employers basis of asking questions. Know our strong points. Be able to tell them (indirectly) why they need to hire you.

3) DRESS FOR SUCCESS — Always look the part of the position you want. Be meticulously groomed and bring properly organized work with you (letters of recommendations, resume copies, performance evaluations and list of questions.

4) BE ON TIME– There is NO excuse to being late. There was too much traffic, a car accident, family emergency– will not cut it. find out where this interview in and make a trial run. Know where the parking is. Keep of a note of the person you will be meeting with. Review questions you plan to ask. Bring your notebook, black pen, tissues, business card, personal data, letters of recommendation, money for gas, telephone and parking, social security card and drivers license identification.

5)  BE POLITE, SHAKE HANDS AND BE POSITIVE–Always stand up to shake hands, use eye-contact and smile. This sets the tone.

6)  SCHEDULE STRATEGICALLY– Try not to be the first person being interviewed. Research shows that the first person interviewed only gets the job 17% of the time, while the last person interviewed gets the job 55% of the time. Late Afternoon is best.

DURING THE INTERVIEW – WHAT AND HOW

1) USE RELAXED CONCENTRATION
Enter into a state of relaxed conversation. Be able to clear your head and concentrate on the present moment of this interview. You will want to act spontaneous but yet be prepared. Rely on the research you have done before this interview to put you at ease. Listen carefully. It’ is okay to ask politely for clarification if needed. Always pause before answering to consider all facts that may be helpful in your response. Be positive and communicate that attitude. You are willing to work. Let your employer know this. You expect to make a contribution. You are flexible. Let the employer know this. You are committed to continuous learning. Let the employer know this.

2) KNOW THE QUESTION “BEHIND THE QUESTION.”

Every question is trying to ask, “Why should we hire you?” Be sure you know the answer! Perhaps there will be a question about meeting deadlines or time management, consider whether the interviewer is attempting to find out about your personal life. It is important for employers to know whether your family live will interfere with your employment.

3) WATCH FOR NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION
Look at the facial expressions, body movements and other clues during the interview process. In a certain way, you are interviewing as well. This takes concentration and focus. Is the employer tapping his pen; is the employer leaning forward. Watch for positive cues. Walk in and sit confidently. Show interest by leaning a bit forward. Keep eye contact. Speak clearly.

4) FINISH STRONG
Show interest by asking when the position will be filled?  Give your qualifications. Whatever you may have “left out” during the interview process, this is the time to “sell yourself” if you are interested in this job, ask the interviewer what the next step would be in the interviewing process. Does he know when the hiring decision will be made and find out when the interviewer feels you should follow up?

5) FOLLOW-UP
Think back and evaluate the interview. Keep a logbook with the dates/times/contact of your interviews.  Write Thank You Notes within 24 hours and send one to every person you interviewed with –thanking them for their valuable time. You can add some “personal touch” by saying something you discussed with them. For example, if you happened to talk about an issue, you can say, “I’ve been thinking about what you said about __________and that really is right on. You will stand out above all other prospects!

JOB QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD BE READY FOR

Tell me about yourself. Why do you feel you could handle this job? What do you hope to gain from this job opportunity? Are you doing any reading lately? What books? (The interviewer wants to find out about your interests). Do you have specific financial goals? Why did you choose this field? Do you see this as a lifetime job? Are you considering other positions? What do you think is your leadership style? Would you be willing to travel/relocate? Do you feel you work well under pressure? How about deadlines? Are you on time when you are supposed to be somewhere? Have you consider your short term and long term goals?  Do you have goal dates for these? How do you measure success? Does success in a particular area have special meaning for you?  What is your main motivation for this job?

QUESTIONS FOR THE EMPLOYER

What is the size of your company? What is the sales volume? What are the companies earning? Does the company plan to expand? What are some trends in your industry? What is your organization’s ranking within your field? What types of responsibilities will I be given? For example, what type of project can you see me doing? Is there travel involved at this point, or at some later point? What are your goals for me to accomplish in this job position?  Is there some reason this position was not filled from within? What would you describe the “public image” to be with this company?  What are the main qualifications you are looking for in the person you eventually hire?  What are some of the challenges of this department/company?
What salary range does this job fall into?

ALL INTERVIEW QUESTIONS ARE REALLY THE SAME QUESTIONS!

Why are YOU the best person for the job?

7)  SET GOALS BEFORE THE INTERVIEW–It is your responsibility to leave the interview feeling secure that the interviewer knows as much as he/she needs to know about your skills, abilities, experience, and achievements. If you sense that there are misconceptions, clear them up. If the interviewer does not ask you important questions, diplomatically bring them up and answer them! Do not leave the meeting without getting your own questions answered so that you have a clear idea of what you would be getting yourself into.

1. SELF ASSESSMENT

Health, Job, Income, Community, Education, Personal Relationships, Social Life, Attitude

 

2. UNDERSTAND PEOPLE’S NEEDS.

Basic

Safety

Social

Ego Status

Self-Actualization

Major Growth occurs at the top levels

 

3. BE LIKEABLE

PEOPLE DO BUSINESS WITH PEOPLE THEY LIKE.

Be happy for others successes.  Like what you do so that you can achieve success as well.

 

4. BE AWARE OF YOUR NEGATIVE BODY LANGUAGE.

Self-deprivation

Averted eyes

“I can’t do this.”

5. RAISE YOUR SELF ESTEEM

Do you have low energy?

Are you un-open?

Do you over identify with others?

Do you give in to others?

6KNOW WHAT SUCCESS IS

Success is defined only by you

Success is a feeling

Success occurs in steps

Success is a balancing act

Success is honesty about abilities

7. KNOW WHAT SUCCESS IS NOT…….

Intelligence

Formal education

Family background

Money

Luck

8. GET RID OF THE IF ONLYS”

I had not married him/her

I had finished school

My parents had not divorced

The company did not change

My boss was not so bad

I had chosen another job

I had rich parents

I had his/her money

9DEVELOP COMMUNICATION SKILLS

Internal, External, Emotional

10. AVOID ARGUMENTS

Never say “You are wrong.”

Admit if you are

Let the other person talk

See the other side

Be sympathetic

11. BE A LEADER

Praise, Ask questions, Let others save face, Encourage, Make people glad to help

12. LEARN DR. JOYCE’S SUCCESS FORMULA

Take risks

Join groups that promote

Demand respect

Throw away judgments

Have your own values

Give yourself credit

Never gossip unless you have something nice to say

Accept who you are

Understand weaknesses

Have empathy for the handicapped, however minimal

Understand Strengths

Turn Setbacks into Successes

13. HELP OTHERS

Sharing means caring

Win-win situation

Feeling of accomplishment

14. CONTRIBUTE TO AN ORGANIZATION or TO YOUR COMMUNITY

Time

Effort

Professionalism

Feeling that you gave

15. BE AN ORIGINAL

 

You were born and original and unless you stay that way, you will only be a copy of someone else.