20 WAYS TO STAY ENCOURAGED!

As a discouraged woman, early in life, I would like to offer 20 suggestions on how to stay encouraged in your dreams and goals.

(1) Do not allow others to put you down.

(2) Listen to yourself. You need to have a healthy self-esteem to do this.

(3) Test it out. Read about your condition or what others’ say about you. Decide whether it’s true or not.

(4) Ask yourself, “Is it true what I’m hearing?” Once you know, you can eliminate the negative thought that there is something missing or wrong with you.

(5) Believe in yourself. If you don’t, neither will anyone else.

(6) Ask yourself what your gut feeling is. Go with that. Gut feelings are there for a reason.

(7) If you have tested out what someone says and it’s not true, delete that person from your life. If it is a family member, limit your communication with them. This is not easy, but it is necessary for you to grow as a person.

(8) Do not feel sorry for yourself. It will not help the situation and possibly can hurt the situation as people will see you as weak.

(9) If, in fact, you do have a limitation, find a way to deal with it. You can either be a “poor me” person or an “I can and will do it, anyway” person.

(10) Practice brain exercises to strengthen your mind. These can be found in many books and articles. Go to the library and do a search on brain exercise.

(11) Look for alternative ways of doing things. For me, it was finding the right magnification to see better with.

(12) Seek out support groups that you can join. You will find that these groups have people in them just like you—people who understand and care.

(13) Read books about Successful Failures. These are people who were told they could not do something and did it better than anyone else!

(14) Read Investor’s Business Daily’s leaders for success column.

(15) Watch Game Changes and learn about what great people did to succeed.

(16) Listen to Audio Tapes on your iPod to hear stories of success.

(17) Meditate.

(18) Get rid of any negative self-talk. We have over 50 thousand thoughts a day. Do you want yours to be negative?

(19) Accept the person you are and were meant to be.

Lastly,

(20) THRIVE just because.

~Dr. Joyce

Maybe it’s just me, but it infuriates me when people tell you they will have something done at a certain time and then, they do not do it! Why do people say things they don’t mean? If you want to be an entrepreneur, you must know that “your word” is everything. If you tell a client you will meet them at a certain place, at a certain time, then you must be there. THEIR time is important and by not doing what you said you would do, you are wasting their valuable time.

Here are 12 tips Professionalism.

1) Do not say anything unless you plan to keep your word.

2) Take that “extra step” and bring something they would like to your meeting.

3) Be there for your clients, even if it’s inconvenient for you.

4) Answer your telephone if possible and if not, be sure you call back within 24 hours.

5) Energize yourself. This makes the other person energized.

6) Keep fit. Your clients will think you do not care about yourself if you look sloppy and unshaven.

7) Leave your personal problems at the door of where you are meeting someone. Everyone has problems. No one wants to hear about yours.

8) Get enough sleep. Clients need your attention on THEM.

9) Under-promise and Over-Deliver.

10) You can be friends with your clients, even if that is not the norm. You will know when you have a connection.

11) Always be on time. In circumstances that are unforeseen, be sure to call your clients and give them the chance to re-schedule, if they do not have the time. It is up to you to know exactly how long it will take to get somewhere. You MUST figure in for accidents, traffic, trains and other incidents that may take you longer to get somewhere. Figure out how you can be at least fifteen minutes early. This shows etiquette and your client will appreciate it.

12) Be Authentic. No one likes a “fake.” People want to do business with people who are interested in them and not people who are interested in themselves. They want to know that you are real. This promotes trust and trust is needed in a relationship. Let your inner light shine through. Many will take notice, but the people who matter most will be the ones who will appreciate you for the real you.

Walt Disney was terrified of it. James Earl Jones couldn’t even think of trying it early in his career and Bill Clinton -after being booed off a stage learned to master it. What is it?

The book of lists rates it the number one fear in America, ahead of snakes, spiders, flying and death. Winston Churchill, Mark Twain, Dan Rather, Margaret Thatcher, Sir Alec Guinness and Tom Brokaw all were terrible speakers before they learned how to communicate more effectively with confidence. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “All the great speakers were bad speakers at first.”

Powerful speaking skills are learned.

Aran Bakshian: Corporate speech-writer, executive, coach and former Director of Speechw4riing at the White House for President Reagan quotes, “To rise to the top in any field, you must be an outstanding public speaker.”

Speaking is critical in today’s business world. The spoken word is not what you say or how you say it. It’s the power you receive by connecting with your audience.

This is a very important skill to have if you want to make it big in your business.

Lee Iacocca saved Chrysler from ruin by revealing his secret that he knew how to talk to people, plain and simple.

Remember A U D I E N C E.

Analyze – Who is your audience? What is their job? What amount of people will be there?

Understand – Does the audience have knowledge of your subject? Ask in advance.

Demographics – What are the ages, genders ad educational backgrounds? Community organizations, local sports teams, recent news events or hometown traditions.

Interests – What are the interests of the audience? Are they being forced to come? What driving forces will bring the audience into the room – fear, money, relationships? Know what will make the audience listen. You need to adapt to what they want to hear.

Environment – What arena will you be presenting in? Will there be a platform to the left of a screen, a wireless microphone and AV Support. Will your space be small so you will need to adapt. Will the audience be able to see you?

Needs – What are the information needs of your audience and what are your needs as the speaker? Ask the host ad the audience members you poll what they want from your presentation. Try and get some real world stories from audience members and get some sense of what the audience is feeling.

Customization – Use specific examples of problems they experience and offer solutions. Use a questionnaire to gather these bits of information that will make your presentation like a personal coaching session.

Expectation- Determine what the audience expects from you and deliver what they want. Be ready for the Q and A section. Consider what questions may be asked beforehand.

Want to get out of the cage & give speeches to small or large audiences, contact me, Dr. Joyce at imagemaker@bellsouth.net. I’m looking for just the right person to give speeches on my behalf. You will be paid 1/2 of my fee and all you have to do is stand in front of a group, using my materials and I will mentor you through it all!

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All successful people have a vision. Without a future vision, it is very difficult to work in the present. You can easily recognize the people without vision – they’re mostly sad; they do not like their job or are just not happy. People who pursue their dreams are excited and filled with enthusiasm.

Vision should be totally clear. By using your imagination, your vision should become a part of you and integrate into your subconscious mind.

Good Questions to Ask Yourself:

  1. What are your relationships like in your family?
  2. How much money would you like to earn? If you learn, you will earn.
  3. In what way do you like to earn your money? You need to feel an inner desire to something you truly want to do.
  4. What is your vision for yourself?

You set the limits in your life. Have the courage to “listen, but not take the advice of naysayers. This vision, sub-consciously, enters your mind and integrates within you.

BIG goals can motivate you. The same refers to vision; vision with an action attached to it! Goals or visions will “stay in your mind” until you ‘let this out’ and perform an action.

WHAT TO DO:

Create a Vision Board to include many areas. Fill in your own! Some are Career, Money, Physical, Personal Growth, Health, Friends/Family, Romance, Fun and Recreational.

What is missing? 3 things we often do:

1) Deny things we want
2) Tolerate things that don’t work
3) Spend valuable time on unimportant things

We have learned that success is measured by money. We succeed by growing. Money comes after!

We must stop living in fear. Decide what we want out of our life.

We must get rid of our “inner critic” (could have a whole committee) Also known as Monkey Mind. This is the way they think!

  • Only one or two choices or no choice at all.
    Black and white or either/or thinking
  • Decision making based on fear
  • “I should” or “I have to” versus “I want to.”
  • Acceptance that this is the way the world is
  • Breathing is constricted, chest tight.

Exercise: Stand up: “I should…..” Then I want.” You will be neutralizing your inner critic. Begin by noticing, observing – Choose a perspective, make a choice, notice our story, have fun, use intuition, honor your values. Get facts – consult a trusted friend

Give your inner critic a name –Example: Sabotage 

  • Identify and eliminate energy drainers.
  • Give up always giving – if this is a…should, or an obligation.
  • Understand wants versus the word should
  • Know at least five ‘out of balance signals.’

Exercise: Identify 5 things that drain you in order of importance. (See positioning for success to incorporate this.)

For energy drain, either eliminate it if you can, handle it, accept it. Energy drains affect your health (business and personal).

FOR TRAINING: View perspective wheel and see the change in each perspective. Ask for 2 volunteers who have some issue. Ask group to help with suggestions. Put the person in one of four sections. How do they feel? “I know I’m out of balance when….”

What really motivates us? Making more money, driving in a bigger car, achieving more social standing or prestige? Or are these goals external needs rather than motivations that serve our growth and transformation? What do we really value in our lives?

We all heard, “I have problems motivating myself.” They may have a great house, nice kids, and a fine career, but, for some reason, they doe not feel fulfilled and happy with their life. They want to change it, but can’t or won’t.

This seems to be a common problem for humans. We all have plans to be successful in life, but what is lacking is the motivation that keeps us going to convert plans and dreams into action. Usually you feel very excited at the beginning when doing something new for the first time, but after awhile, somehow you feel that you lack passion and motivation. The excitement that you had in the first few days and weeks just disappeared for no reason.

We all have this challenge from time to time but we don’t let allow a short period of not being motivated stop you from achieving your goals and dreams.

THINK ABOUT PURPOSE

If you don’t feel motivated, think of why you want to achieve what you want, that is the purpose of doing what you are doing. Your purpose could be to improve the lives of others, to help people to do things more efficiently, or to help people to make more money. Thinking of your purpose and inner values is an important way to motivate yourself. Write them down and hang them in a special spot in the house where you can see them daily.

PRETEND THAT YOU HAVE ALREADY REACHED YOUR GOAL

Connect and focus on that great feeling. If you find yourself lacking motivation, simply start smiling (it raises your positive energy) and think about something you can appreciate. Keep focusing on appreciation and tell the universe how you want it to be rather than focusing on the obstacles. For more on this point, I suggest reading the book Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn

TALK TO A POSITIVE AND SUPPORTIVE FRIEND

Find someone that you are comfortable with who has already solved the problem you are facing. It is my experience that after sharing and asking for what you need, you feel re-energized.

READ INSPIRING BOOKS THAT FEATURE SUCCESS STORIES

By reading these books, you not only learn from others, but the story will motivate you to move ahead with your plans. Success stories also make you re-focus your energy on your goals. Some suggestions of books to read are: Think and Grow Rich byNapoleon Hill, or Path of Least Resistance, by Floris Rommerts

CREATE POSITIVE ENERGY RITUALS

Start each day with a ritual that gives you a good feeling and positive energy. This is the most powerful mean to create the life you really want.

“We all face challenges. Some are easy and some are difficult. But all these challenges give us the opportunity to grow stronger, and become more wise and experienced. Embrace those opportunities for in them you will find the beauty of life!” ~Dr. Joyce

So, you want to be an image consultant and write a book, give seminars, or you have a great image tip you think the world would be interested in.

The trouble is, in most cases, you do not have the advertising dollars necessary to accomplish this. Consider Radio Advertising and Television Advertising.

Radio Advertising/TV Advertising

You do not have to pay for air time. Hosts are looking for people to have on their shows.

How Powerful are Radio and Television Interviews? Radio advertising can be powerful. Remember, Chicken Soup for the Soul Books? They have sold 60 MILLION books! They did this by being on the radio every single day across the country.

In the book, “The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, he suggests to average one interview per day.

Earl Mindell wrote “The Vitamin Bible” and sold over 15 MILLION. His secret: “Never Stop doing Interviews.”

How Does It Work?

Whether you realize it or not, you are an expert on whatever it is you wrote a book on. If you are a speaker or seminar leader, you are an expert on your topic.

The Media Wants You!

You are the Media’s best source of Programming. They want someone to entertain, inform and enlighten their audience.

They will seek out people just like you because they figured out they don’t have to pay you for your expertise and valuable service to their audiences.

If you can provide the interviewer with either entertainment or information they can use, they want you.

What Are Some of the Things You Need to Do to Get on Radio & Television?

  1. Go the Library and get a List of Shows.
  2. Make a contact list by calling and being sure the list is current.
  3. Make changes.
  4. Then, call the editor.
  5. Tell the editor what you do and see if there would be a fit. Most editors are looking for people to bring on the shows.
  6. Make friends with the “gatekeeper,” normally that is the receptionist, and ask about what others have done to get on the shows. Take notes.
  7. Find out how the editor likes hearing from you. For example, by email, by telephone, or in-person.
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Hello. My name is Dr. Joyce Knudsen and from the time I was small, people in my life were very negative towards me. I wasn’t a good student and I was “labeled” as lazy, stupid, and “she just doesn’t try.”  I didn’t know why I could not see the board, but I wanted to be popular and be like the other children at my school. So, I pretended to be like everyone else. If someone showed me something, I would look at it and say, “Oh, how lovely.” But, I couldn’t see it –not unless it was right in front of my viewing area –straight in front of me. I knew I could see depth or to the side.  For years, I felt different but, at the same time, I always knew there was a purpose to my life and I needed to follow it, no matter what someone else was telling me about myself.

When I married, I told my husband about my eye challenges. At the age of thirty-two, I went in for eye surgery to see if the doctor could make my eyes straight. They had a tendency to move to the right and that made me self-conscious. The doctor said it wouldn’t help my vision, but I may be able to look like my eyes were in the middle. The operation made my eyes look perfect, so now it was even easier to “fool” the people I knew by pretending to see.

It is a challenge daily for me to look at steps so I don’t fall; it is a challenge to read a menu or a newspaper, but I can see and decided at an early age to follow my dreams. It was frustrating because I wanted so much to learn and was highly theoretical and everyone was always discouraging me.

At the encouragement of a wonderful school counselor, at the age of 23, I earned an Associate Degree from a Community College and given a grant. There were nine people in my family and money for college just was not “in the cards.” At this point in time, I proved to myself that I was not stupid or lazy. I just had to find a way to communicate with instructors about how I could learn.

Ever since I was young, I always enjoyed putting clothing together, doing people’s makeup, and cleaning out their closets. From there, I worked as a model and actress and then taught modeling and acting. I decided in 1985, after working in many facets of the Image Industry to join an association devoted to Image. I joined AFIC at the time. In 1988, AIC and AFIC combined to form The Association of Image Consultants, International (AICI) and I have worked my way up to becoming the very first AICI-CIM (Certified Image Master). It is the highest level of achievement in the Image Industry.

Oh, and did I tell you that when I was thirty-six, I went back to school to get a bachelor’s degree in communications, then a master’s degree in business administration and then a Ph.D. in Human Services (Psychology). All this and I was already 52! Now, I have started a school for Image Consulting and Life-Coaching.

Who were these people who told me “I couldn’t do it!” These were just their “opinions.” I learned that “opinions” are not fact. When someone says something to us, we need to ask questions, “Is this accurate?” “Is this validated?” If not, we need to ignore these types of comments. What right did they have to take away my dream? NEVER allow anyone to take away your dreams. You can be anything you want to be. You have to believe in yourself.

 

 

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“If you can dream it, you can do it.”
Walt Disney (told he had “no good ideas!).”

Walt Disney was terrified of it. James Earl Jones couldn’t even think of trying it early in his career and Bill Clinton –after being booed off a stage learned to master it. What is it?

PUBLIC SPEAKING

The book of lists rates public speaking as the number one fear in America, ahead of snakes, spiders, flying and death. Winston Churchill, Mark Twain, Dan Rather, Margaret Thatcher, Sir Alec Guinness, and Tom Brokaw all were terrible speakers before they learned how to communicate more effectively with confidence. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “All the great speakers were bad speakers at first.”

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Powerful speaking skills are learned.

To rise to the top in any field, you must be an outstanding public speaker.”

Aran Bakshian: Corporate speech-writer, executive, coach and former Director of Speechwriting at the White House for President Reagan quotes:

“Speaking is critical in today’s business world. The spoken word is not what you say or how you say it. It’s the power you receive by connecting with your audience.”

This is a very important skill to have if you want to make it big in your business.

Lee Iacocca saved Chrysler from ruin by revealing his secret that he knew how to talk to people, plain and simple.

Remember A U D I E N C E.

Analyze – Who is your audience? What is their job? What amount of people will be there?

Understand – Does the audience have knowledge of your subject? Ask in advance.

Demographics – What are the ages, genders ad educational backgrounds? Community organizations, local sports teams, recent news events or hometown traditions.

Interests – What are the interests of the audience? Are they being forced to come? What driving forces will bring the audience into the room – fear, money, relationships? Know what will make the audience listen. You need to adapt to what they want to hear.

Environment – What arena will you be presenting in? Will there be a platform to the left of a screen, a wireless microphone and AVsupport. Will your space be small so you will need to adapt?. Will the audience be able to see you?

Needs – What are the information needs of your audience and what are your needs as the speaker? Ask the host ad the audience members you poll what they want from your presentation. Try and get real world stories from audience members and get some sense of what the audience is feeling.

Customization – Use specific examples of problems they experience and offer solutions. Use a questionnaire to gather these bits of information that will make your presentation like a personal coaching session.

Expectation- Determine what the audience expects from you and deliver what they want. Be ready for the Q and A section. Consider what questions may be asked beforehand.

What is the difference between Training, Coaching & Mentoring.

What is the difference between Training, Coaching & Mentoring.

Training:
Training is an organized activity aimed at imparting information and/or instructions to improve the recipient’s performance or to help him or her attain a required level of knowledge or skill. Once a trainer has taught you, their job is done. These people may or may not have academic training themselves.

Coaching:
Coaching is training or development in which a person called a coach supports a learner in achieving a specific personal or professional goal. Occasionally, coaching may mean an informal relationship between two people, of whom one has more experience and expertise than the other and offers advice and guidance as the latter learns; but coaching differs from mentoring in focusing on specific tasks or objectives, as opposed to general goals or overall development. Anyone can call themselves a coach! Most coaches work with you up to one year maximum.

Mentoring:
Mentoring is the top tier of training, as it includes organized activity, support AND focusing on what the mentee needs. A mentor has a high level of academic education, such as a Ph.D. A mentor who guides a less experienced person by building trust and modeling positive behaviors. An effective mentor understands that his or her role is to be dependable, engaged, authentic, and tuned into the needs of the mentee. A mentor could work with you for one month to forever. It’s up to the mentor! A mentor will work with you for infinity!

 

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When choosing a program to take in your industry, STOP and do research. Talk to others about their experience. It is not about the price. People must pay for value and a high set of experiences. I remember paying a mentor $3,000 for one month of mentoring, which included only four phone conversation. He gave me some tests and we talked about them.

It was the best $3,000 I ever spent. He taught me about people and their needs. He explained the need for assessing myself on a regular basis, and to assess my mentees as well, and explained to me that, “Some people are so weak, they can’t like you”. Many are afraid of what you will do, next. Remember, he said, “When people shun you, it’s about their self-esteem, not yours”. They must belong to a particular group for their “belonging needs.” He went on to say that “If you really want to be successful, you MUST have tough skin or pretend you do!” He told me to be the Lone Ranger!!

In retrospect, I should have listened at that time, but my personality lends itself to “go along to get along.” In the past few years, I took his advice and my life has changed for the better. Offers are coming in I only imagined about before that. I became diversified and entered into more than one area of expertise, helping authors grow with a new book, doing many radio shows, certifying people, and becoming a social site strategist. I’ve met some amazing people who are now friends who recommend everything I do. I’ve learned how to stand on my own. People respect me for my strength and dedication to everything I do.

Now, I am a mentor and teach others to mentor.

 

  1. Pay It Forward: That is if you want people to do the same for you!
  2. Always thank people and show appreciation: People like to be told.
  3. Be Positive: Think before you post, as everyone has problems and people don’t want to hear about them.
  4. Publish Quality Content: Be seen as an expert in your field
  5. Be Transparent: Be Awesome, Authentic and Real.
  6. Earn Trust: Loyalty and Trust is Earned
  7. Share your Expertise: Build on what you are proficient at.
  8. Read up on English! 
  9. Complete Your Bio! This is where people read about you!
  10. Don’t Be Negative: People have enough problems!
  11. Comment on Posts: People want feedback!
  12. BuildRelationships: It’s called Social Media!
  13. NO SELLING:  Unless you want to get unfollowed, unfriended or no longer get “likes.”
  14. Hater’s”-Treating rude people with a professional attitude and tone makes them “go away!